Arguments are going to happen in relationships, but learning how to handle them will determine the success of your relationship. Men and women do not typically communicate emotionally the same. Women are by nature very emotional creatures and we tend to detach our feelings from logic. Meaning that during arguments women often get upset and talk about many things at once that they are unhappy with; causing us to be even more upset than expected. Whereas men like to deter from arguments, they are more likely to bottle their emotions, and don’t usually mix emotions from multiple issues. Often men feel as if they are being attacked by their woman and shut down during disputes causing them to stop talking.
But guess what ladies, more likely than not if he’s not talking he’s also not listening!
So, instead learn how to communicate to get through to him.
Think about it, whenever you and your man get into a disagreement you most likely find yourself talking more than listening, learn how to find a balance. When expressing your feelings be aware of the volume in your voice (keep a calm tone) and focus so that you stay on topic of what particularly matters at the moment. When you have finished saying what is on your mind, ask him how he feels and LISTEN. He will be more than appreciative of this, he wants to be able to express himself to you he just has to feel that it is safe to do so. Take his thoughts into consideration as much as yours because you are in a relationship together so you both are equally important. If you want to come to any resolution remember to tell your ego she is not invited to these kinds of conversations. If you are wrong, admit it and apologize. If neither of you is necessarily wrong, together come up with solutions and ideas to amend your differences for the future. You and your partner will find that you are much happier when issues are actually resolved as opposed to shouting at one another with no change in the end.
Once the door for communication is open within your relationship you will be amazed as to how easy it is to have a mature argument that ends with a kiss each time.